I prefer any woman who handles herself with awesomeness, young or old. And when we get to the older spectrum, there's people like Tilda Goddamn Swinton, umph. That can't really be beat.
Tbh, I look forward to having an awesome head of grey hair -- I recently let my natural hair color grow out partially to see if I was getting any yet. And I already think of myself as 30 (and I would be 30 if I were still in Asia), but I also don't think I'm that different than I was at 20, other than a tad wiser, a bit calmer and even more cynical.
However -- curse me if I sound like a victim blamer, but I'm far too jaded when it comes to human nature -- I think it has a lot to do with how one controls and presents oneself. At least, from what I've observed in older women, and in myself, to some extent, they become better at knowing how to handle it and even stopping it before it happens. Of course, there's probably a decrease in male attention as a result of innate biology (and perhaps that same biology makes the handling of it easier), though I haven't really noticed a change in how I'm treated other than a decrease in being carded. And, interestingly, even that changes a lot depending on how I'm dressed, relative to my environs.
And being my age now, as opposed to 20? I'm much better at not flinching or blushing at comments, at avoiding eye contact straight away. Part of me hates that I've learned to do this, because I find myself questioning the intent of males ALL THE TIME. I find it difficult to trust them, whereas before I might have befriended males, and be completely clueless to sexual tension or 'friend zone' complexes. I used to take people at face value, but I hardly ever do anymore. This sucks, because I generally tend to get along with the average dude better than the average females.
tl;dr: beware of growing up to be a paranoid grump like me. :P
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Tbh, I look forward to having an awesome head of grey hair -- I recently let my natural hair color grow out partially to see if I was getting any yet. And I already think of myself as 30 (and I would be 30 if I were still in Asia), but I also don't think I'm that different than I was at 20, other than a tad wiser, a bit calmer and even more cynical.
However -- curse me if I sound like a victim blamer, but I'm far too jaded when it comes to human nature -- I think it has a lot to do with how one controls and presents oneself. At least, from what I've observed in older women, and in myself, to some extent, they become better at knowing how to handle it and even stopping it before it happens. Of course, there's probably a decrease in male attention as a result of innate biology (and perhaps that same biology makes the handling of it easier), though I haven't really noticed a change in how I'm treated other than a decrease in being carded. And, interestingly, even that changes a lot depending on how I'm dressed, relative to my environs.
And being my age now, as opposed to 20? I'm much better at not flinching or blushing at comments, at avoiding eye contact straight away. Part of me hates that I've learned to do this, because I find myself questioning the intent of males ALL THE TIME. I find it difficult to trust them, whereas before I might have befriended males, and be completely clueless to sexual tension or 'friend zone' complexes. I used to take people at face value, but I hardly ever do anymore. This sucks, because I generally tend to get along with the average dude better than the average females.
tl;dr: beware of growing up to be a paranoid grump like me. :P