crankyoldman | Permit me a moment to complain

Alright. So apparently the way housing works around here sucks. I basically would have had to claim my room a week after I got here. I was still moving in and trying not to freak out over insurance crap then!

It's not that I'm a difficult person or anything, but I've found that sharing a room with a person (not an apartment, just a ROOM) hasn't really worked for me. I stay up at weird hours, I am generally a weird, oh and let's not forget that I have a girlfriend. The chances of finding a roommate that shares a room with me and is cool with ALL of that is slim to none. Maybe I'm being a little pessimistic, but I had a control freak and a militant narcissist as roommates. My first roommate actually wasn't so bad, but I was an idiot and switched rooms to be with a friend (who turned out being PSYCHO).

I'm hesitant to get an apartment because of food. I'm not a particularly good cook, and on top of that, I have a tendency of forgetting to eat. Which is bad. Then again, depending on when Justin graduates, this might be cool. Even for a semester, considering my luck getting into a single room on an odd semester like I did.

Hrm.

I like the secretary in our dorm, she's at least realistic and recognizes the fact I'm kind of odd. She's kind of like a kindly older aunt type. The resident life manager (I kid you not, that is her title) is all, "blah blah blah join the facebook group and come to mixers and find a roommate that way!"

NEWFLASH LADY. DO NOT GET HIGH AND MIGHTY SIMPLY BECAUSE I AVOID FORCED SOCIALIZATION. BECAUSE FORCE SOCIALIZATION BY IT'S NATURE IS AWKWARD AND I HAVE MORE IMPORTANT THINGS TO DO.

That's really always annoyed me. I make friends how I make them. The people I generally get along with are the types that know to just leave me alone sometimes. I'm fine with being introverted, it means I suck less at school and the relationships I DO cultivate are that much better. I don't ignore people because I hate them, I just don't always have the energy. It's taken a long fucking time to build myself up after nearly losing my mind, I do not need random catty girly shit to deal with.

Seriously took ALL my self control just to not start yelling at this woman. I just about lost my temper, like, my ears felt hot. I haven't gotten that pissed off in a while. I mean, she had the gall to just be like, "you've got a bad attitude."

Being defensive and trying to keep the drama in my life down is not bad it's experience. I get along with girls (if my f-list is any indication) but I can live with very few. Emily's probably one of the few girls I've been able to live with, and I felt bad whenever I managed to piss her off (which happened, I was even more introverted back then). Because she's so nice and had pressures that I couldn't even imagine. But I think the fact we got along had to do with the fact she had gone through a lot and while I was still getting through the "learning from shit" stage, there was at least a basic understanding.

Unless you thought I was terrible, Emily, and sorry if I was. >.>

I mean, I used to think I was an extrovert, but then I had to actually have people around ALL THE TIME and I didn't do so well. I need some quiet time to myself once in a while or else I get too stressed out and can't sleep and start getting panicky and stop eating... it's not pretty. One of the things that drove me mad during being married is that my ex-husband never left me alone, except at night when he went to work. So I stopped sleeping at night and got online because that was the only time I could get my sanity back. Sure, that may sound social, but it's different. It's a... proximity thing.

God, maybe I need to see a shrink again.

*breathes* Alright, I'm starting to think rationally again, though I am still just... Sandy (the secretary lady) got what I was asking. I told her plainly I liked the dorms because it meant food, she suggested checking out the graduate dorm (which I'm old enough for, you have to be 21, for some reason) and see if any singles are left and possibly going and checking out roommates there. Reasonable suggestions in a nice tone. The RLM just... god, I do not like it when people talk to me like I am stupid or a freak. It makes me lose the tact I've worked HARD to get, and gah. I'm cool with the facts. That's all I asked for. I did not ask for a diatribe on my "bad attitude" and how I should make my facebook profile public (dude, I use it to keep up with my sister and maybe a couple friends I am not comfortable with my real name on the internets!) and crap.

Does anyone else get bothered by stuff like that too, or am I really just completely odd?

At the very least, if the dorms don't have what I want/hope for then I've got plenty of time to look for an apartment. Or see how long Justin's around and say the heck with this crap. Just need to call my dad. I wish it were later tonight, he usually helps me think rationally. Gah. Thank god my test tomorrow is a lab practical (I ROCK THOSE HARDKORE).

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I don’t know my overly extraverted, social butterfly roommates always worked the best for me. All of mine were nice reasonable polite and they have weird hours that often had them not returning to the room until the next day. Other than that the Japanese girl who was like an adorable Japanese girl stereotype, though I suppose she fit in the above category except she wasn’t a sorority girl, some were tolerable then there was the girl who had sex with her idiot boyfriend who was practical living there with me still in the room. Yeah, I had another roommate every semester so I went through most of the gambit which is funny as my little sister never had a roommate last a semester with her.

When I need to be alone, which was pretty often back at home I used to wake up early enough to have an hour to myself in the morning I was pretty snippy with my little sibling when they tried to encroach on my hours, I usual went to the library which I lived at during a few semester or spent a lot of time walking around the campus during the day at least.

I hope things will work out for you.

Actually, it's not social people that bother me. It's, well, I tend to end up with somewhat overbearing people that feel just because I'm not out and about a lot that they can boss me around. Or emotional types that can't take me saying, "hey, you're getting kind of messy, clean it up please?"

More of that rant was just the stupid Resident Life Manager getting on my case because I just would prefer to avoid a roommate. I just don't really like being talked down to. I'm short and don't look my age, so it happens a lot more than I'd like it to.

I'm thinking if I can't find a single in the dorms and my friend Justin doesn't have room I'll totally just get my own apartment. A little expensive, but if I work over the summer I should have enough to cover it.

I guess I just needed to vent my frustrations. I REALLY dislike that woman. Grrr. I feel enough like a freak as it is.

~Cendri

I didn’t mean to imply you didn’t like social people just that social people worked better for me than regular people and would likely give you room alone time if that’s what you need. But since you have a plan it was unnecessary.

Just don’t kill her or maim her because I wouldn’t have to testify against you. ;p

You aren't being irrational at all. I would HATE to share a room with someone. It's a completely unnaturnal situation to be in! I like people too but everyone needs some time where they can just get rid of everyone else. It's the only way we can ... just reset, you know?

That RLM lady sounds like a witch. You were asking about housing options. How you go about discovering roommates (or choosing not to do so) is your own business. And someone associated with the university administration should know better than to promote a social networking site with the undertone of encouraging underage drinking! Just, gah, I hate when people don't know how to do their own jobs.

I think you'd like living with graduates, personally. They're a more mature group of people with a better set of life goals (yes, I went there). I find it a lot easier to talk to and relate to graduate students than undergraduates (they're so WEE!).

I actually enjoyed living alone but it definitely forces you to get out and do things. Alone time is good but too much time in an empty apartment would make anyone go a little bit nutty (or at least force them to buy a cat).

*hugs* It'll be okay! Finding living accomodations is always stressful. You aren't alone in that, I promise you.

-T. pirate

I fucking hated roommates. You are not alone.

YES I CAN TALK TO YOU ABOUT THIS?

What is it about girls and living with them that suddenly makes them LOSE THEIR REASON?

At least I know in 2009 (if I'm around then, ha) they're opening up a dorm entirely comprised of single rooms with common areas for like, microwaves and shit. Which I'm totally down with. They should have done it that way to begin with, SHARING A ROOM IS BATSHIT.

~Cendri

It's RIDICULOUS.

I've had a string of terrible roommates that could rival pretty much everyone, and have also lost ridiculous amounts of friendships because of stupid petty shit. And even trying to live with a random stranger (i.e. "I have a room in my apartment, who at Case is looking to live off campus?") wasn't any good, either, because even without a friendship at stake you still fucking drive each other crazy.

It's just like... all the stupid little things abotu people just multiply until they're all a big and annoying deal. And whoever said "girls are neat" was a fucking LIAR. Girls don't clean, and they NEVER do their dishes, and they ruin all of YOUR shit because they think "tee hee! we live together!"

Seriously, I will never have a roommate again. Jeff doesn't count, really, because a relationship means it's more like a partnership. But if I have to move out, I will prostitute my body to live alone before I ever take on another roommate.

I went through two batshit roommates before I happened upon someone I could stand right before batshit roommate #2 moved out without telling me, so no, I don't blame you.

Dunno about your school, but at mine, it was possible to get a dorm meal plan without living on campus. A lot of college downs also do an Off Campus Meal Plan these days, though I don't know what the cost/benefit ratio on that looks like.

Also, WAITING LIST, they put you on a waiting list, right? Because they should.

Also also, I don't think this applies to you, but I've known people who pulled the "my psych says I should have a single" card. XD

I only get on the waiting list if I sign up for a contract again, which if a room doesn't open up I'm stuck with. So no, I'm not doing the damn waiting list unless they can guarentee me an out of the contract, which they won't because housing seems filled (with the exception of my ditzy RA and Sandy) with bitches that feel like they should lecture me about being anti-social when all I was doing was making an inquiry.

Now I'm angry again. Gaaaah, it'll NEVER END.

~Cendri

Too bad housing isn't more scarce - at my university you were guaranteed to be able to sell your housing contract if you didn't want it because they were in such short supply compared to demand.

They're like, stupid out here about it. Like one of my friends married a girl for a month and then got an annulment in order to get out of a housing contract. I have NO IDEA why it's that way.

And Sandy wasn't in today, so I couldn't go ask her to do the things my dad told me to go do. Because my dad is kind of a master at making the system do what he wants. Anytime I get shit when it comes to some administrative thing or another he gives me a game plan and it works.

As dorkish as that sounds.

~Cendri

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