Engendering of Manners

So, I was quite pleased to see this article on gentlemanly behavior, because I don't see those too often. And this one was particularly nice because it didn't really seem as patronizing towards women as a lot of others. I was particularly taken with the "give up your seat to children and the elderly, not just to attractive women" comment. It's very anti-commodity model of sexual relations, and I can get behind that. Be nice to be nice, don't be nice to get laid.

Unfortunately, the lady version just isn't awesome.

And I'm not even entirely sure what bugs me, as they describe quite a few of my mannerisms to some extent. People that have met me in person often say I'm very polite. Doesn't mean I don't have stupid moments, but politeness is important to me.

Maybe it's the general defensive posture that most of the tips take. The gentleman's manners all describe approaching, looking, doing. The lady's manners are all about being approached, caring for, looking like. While the gentleman should polish his shoes, the lady has rules to follow when dressing herself. A lady's responsibility is to present herself, a gentleman's responsibility is to act accordingly. I have nothing wrong with differences in passivity and aggressiveness, what I disagree with is that they are gendered.

Am I the only one seeing this? This all ties into a masculine/feminine thing I keep meaning to write, maybe later. It's got me thinking.

Some Movies I've Seen Recently

And by recent I mean like, in 2010 in general. Not all, just ones I felt like writing down stuff for them. I'll make a separate post for TV shows. Netflix is the best/worst thing for me ever.

( so I watch a lot of movies )