I can say that when I was in public system of mass schooling I was in a few fights. When I was in the private system of schooling I was in a few fights. I can say that while there were fights and a lot of verbal abuse, I came out knowing how to put my foot down, force my way through, and make myself be understood by a wider range of people. I loathed private schooling because it made me a staunch atheist. I'm old enough now to just be horrified with the way that they used to the school to institutionalize the misogynistic and rigid role of “God” and use religion as a way to make themselves better than other people.
Really, that sort of thing makes me physically ill. The point of school, perhaps really is the forced socialization. Getting to get along with people you wouldn’t agree with otherwise and really don’t like. I think I’d be a doormat if I was allowed to never have to face opposition to myself. It would have been more difficult to formulate my own identity.
Not to say that you cannot socialize with a Home School setting. I’m well aware that many parents can and do a good job of introducing their children to different subcultures and people. The problem is that many people use it as a sheltering technique and this leaves people in a perpetual state of adolescence.
Unfortunately there is also a time where there ARE places that are too violent for some children. I would rather not have a child facing their day in fear for their safety. While I had a couple fights and dealt with teasing (I think everyone spent a few months crying in HS over bullies) I was never really afraid for myself. And that’s the key. One should never be forced into a situation that they are afraid in for the good of someone else’s view of how many people they should meet.
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Date: 2010-03-23 09:47 pm (UTC)Really, that sort of thing makes me physically ill. The point of school, perhaps really is the forced socialization. Getting to get along with people you wouldn’t agree with otherwise and really don’t like. I think I’d be a doormat if I was allowed to never have to face opposition to myself. It would have been more difficult to formulate my own identity.
Not to say that you cannot socialize with a Home School setting. I’m well aware that many parents can and do a good job of introducing their children to different subcultures and people. The problem is that many people use it as a sheltering technique and this leaves people in a perpetual state of adolescence.
Unfortunately there is also a time where there ARE places that are too violent for some children. I would rather not have a child facing their day in fear for their safety. While I had a couple fights and dealt with teasing (I think everyone spent a few months crying in HS over bullies) I was never really afraid for myself. And that’s the key. One should never be forced into a situation that they are afraid in for the good of someone else’s view of how many people they should meet.